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From Shifting Perspective
How to get children to listen
22
Oct

It is that time of the year again. Does it feel like you are running out of time and energy?

It is that time of the year again. Does it feel like you are running out of time and energy? There are so many more things to do, more functions, finishing our work schedules before we go on leave, organising for holidays and financial pressures. It is so easy to get caught up in this process and then, end the year feeling exhausted and stressed. What if we took a step back for a minute...
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Family
22
Sep

Does a loving family mean doing everything together?

I remember always thinking that having a loving family looked like everyone spending time all together. I would see happy families all together and long for that. I often wondered what was wrong with me.  My situation was different. Although my two boys were 3 years apart, because my younger son was a special needs child, my boy’s interests and capabilities were vastly different. When we spent time all together, there was always one of...
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How do I bond with my child
11
Sep

How do we measure how well we have done and how does this impact our performance and our sense of self?

Measuring ourselves by our Results Often we measure how well we have done by the result we get. While the result is important, measuring ourselves by our results creates our stress and our stress impacts our performance. When we are stressed we are not as resourceful and learning becomes less effective. Managing our stress is essential to good performance.  We don’t always have control over the results. Sometimes the exams set are more difficult than...
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exam pressure
31
Aug

Managing our stress about our teenagers writing exams

What makes us stress when our teenagers write exams? What do we say to ourselves? How do we help them when they are stressing? They are stressing too much about these exams and it is getting in the way of their studying What do we do when they are not settling down to study or getting distracted What happens if they don’t do well enough in their exams, it could impact their future They don’t...
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Students writing at high-school exam teens study
27
Aug

Tips to Help with Exam time Stress

Exams can be very stressful. How can we manage this stress? 1. Listen to your stress  Do you dismiss or ignore your stress and try and study “over” it? Feeling stressed impacts our ability to learn and take in information. Our stress is there to tell us something, when we listen to our feelings they settle down, giving the learning part of the brain an opportunity to focus. Often stress is a signal to get...
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Parent teen discussion
17
Aug

Setting up Agreement Frames with our Teenagers

  When our teenagers misbehave, setting up agreement frames can be a great way to manage consequences and it develops accountability in them. We do this by having a discussion about the situation, asking questions and coming up with an agreement of consequences. We can ask questions like: How do they feel about what they have done? What do they think their consequence should be? What would they learn from their consequence? What have they...
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